I don’t believe in generational curses, I believe in generational choices. My reason is that there’s no clear, biblical evidence for generational curses. In fact the contrary is true.
Looking forward to the New Covenant days we live in today, Jeremiah prophesied: “In those days people will no longer say, ‘The fathers have eaten sour grapes, and the children’s teeth are set on edge.’ Instead, everyone will die for his own sin; whoever eats sour grapes—his own teeth will be set on edge” (31:29). God was saying, each generation would be responsible for its decisions and consequences, and that no longer could people cop out by blaming the generation ahead of them.
I’m aware that many quote Ex 20v 5-6 in this context: “I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the fathers to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me”. But they fail to keep reading as God then says, “but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.” God is saying that it’s the generational hatred towards him that keeps a sin alive in a family or a nation. But where there’s love for him and people instead chose to love God there’s only blessing.
I’ve been pastoring people too long to believe in generational curses. I’ve seen too many break free from long standing negative family traits by simply making different choices rather than through a deliverance session from a generational curse. Every generation gets to make its own choices and if we make the same poor choices we will reap the same negative consequences. But if we choose different we can expect different. Generational curses totally disempower people and empower some unseen demonic power that has dominated a family for decades. This breeds helplessness and abdication of responsibility.
It doesn’t matter whether your dad was a murderer or your mother the ‘wicked witch of the east’, their choices don’t have to govern your life. This is your turn, your generation. You choose the kind of life you live and nobody else. Choose life and don’t even worry about what choices your ancestors made. In Christ, you are ground zero.